Ginger Vee My Chronic Life

✨🌈 BEAUTIFUL SISTERHOOD, 🌈✨

HOW MUCH DO YOU
Do, Say, Believe in, Behave, Think, Act…
BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO?
BECAUSE IT’S EXPECTED?
BECAUSE IT’S JUS’ HOW IT’S ALWAYS BEEN?

💥 Why do you feel you “have to?”
Is it because, If you don’t do it, no one will?
Or, because it won’t be done the way that you do it?
Or, is it because you literally thought there was no other option?

💥 Who is Expecting You to do it?
Why do they have the power to “expect” anything of you?
If it doesn’t happen, so what?

💥 Do you have other options?
If it’s not done a certain way, by a certain person (you), are there negative Repercussions?

✨ If we do things with our children, and for our family because it’s “just what moms do” and we aren’t doing it from a place of giving from our spirit, is that really what’s best for the family?

✨ Do your actions come from desires that you have in your heart, or do they come from societal expectations, religious restrictions, Family and Traditional/Cultural constructs?

✨ What do you do/refrain from doing because..

YOU’RE A WOMAN? A MOTHER? A PARTNER? A BUSINESS OWNER? A TEACHER?
APART OF A SPECIFIC COMMUNITY? HAVE SPECIFIC POLITICAL AFFILIATIONS? ARE A “GOOD” CHRISTIAN/RELIGIOUS/SPIRITUAL CHICK?
YOU EMBODY A DIVINE FEMININE SPIRIT?

✨ If tasks, (for me it was baking at Christmas) stresses you out…
Are there other options? Is the stress worth it? Are you doing it to put the love and the effort and time into a gift for this person because you are drawn to, or because that’s what your mother told you to do the first Christmas you moved out of the house and you literally thought “it’s just what we DO”?
And what would happen if you didn’t do it? I don’t bake at Christmas anymore (not in 2019 or 2020) but my extended friends know that I care a lot about them because I show it in other thoughtful ways. LIFE WENT ON! I was shocked. No one hated me. No one thought I was worthless or lazy. And I ENJOYED the holidays without stress because I was flexible with traditions, instead of being stuck in the past, I just morphed it to fit my current needs and feelings. And! Oh! What a relief! The world moved on and all was well.

So, I leave you with these musings of mine, and encourage you to look deeper into why you do what’cha do. Ponder these questions a bit and lemme know your thoughts. 🕉✨💜✨🕉